Getting out of your shell
Finding your purpose in life is the ultimate goal and the most important thing you can ever do.
For me, I learned that you can achieve anything you want in life. All you need is to do is
And so I don’t spend so much time on thinking if I can do something anymore in contrast with what to do. Once you remove self doubt and anxiety you can do whatever you want, you start making new paths for yourself.
Like a carpenter who spent years struggling with his rusty handsaws, broken screwdrivers and overall deficient tools, decides one day to fix his equipment. And so, one by one his repository grows more powerful and effective. With a brand new set of tools he can now build whatever he wants. Confronted with an multitude of disciplines he can undertake, what should he choose ?
Same thing, you might have had enough with your social anxiety, not being able to talk in public, fear of trying new things and getting out of your comfort zone and decided to take a course or read books about personal development. A year later after acquiring new ideas and going through excruciating exercises to help get out of your comfort zone… you’ve made it ! You’ve overcome most of the problems that were holding you back and preventing you from doing the thing you wanted to. Nothing seems impossible anymore, the world is your oyster.
The Paradox Of Choice
Now that you’ve sharpened the tools and realized that anything is possible with enough determination… time for the next problem : What to choose. Unlike the carpenter, who’s trying to figure out which carpentry discipline to choose, you are a human being struggling to figure out which life path to choose. You can go wherever you want, eat whatever you want, change your field of work, start drawing, dancing, fighting, going to the gym, help people overcome their anxieties… Faced with literally an infinity of possibilities. You might choose a path randomly and dedicate yourself to it and excel at it (which is the main idea of stoicism if you’re interested in exploring this further) but if you’re true to yourself you won’t be comfortable closing your eyes on the other ones. Paralysis by analysis.